Honestly?
(I’ve not really thought this through and I’m in a bit of a rush. Better to blog then to not though eh…)
I’ve always said I’ve liked honestly, except it’s always been something I’ve, personally, found difficult for a whole raft of reasons. Isn’t it better to say what’s on your mind, that thing that’s bothering you? Often, the words will sit on my the tip of my tongue and just hang there. It’s often a case of ‘this is what I want to say but it’s just easier to say nothing’. It doesn’t really apply to a particular situation, say the fairer sex or family members. It’s in everything.
Except something different happened on Thursday and just got me thinking. What honesty actually means? It’s not saying everything you’re thinking and feeling I don’t think. Does it depend on the situation, picking the time when to open your mouth and say something? Who knows.
All I know is that on Wednesday, I opened my mouth and spoke to the teacher whose class I cover for for 2 hours a week (I could write so much about that 2 hours) and told her that I found the class difficult to manage. It just happened, because as I sat there I was almost sure the words would catch one more time. We talked about it and how we could change the situation and she was incredibly supportive. So now things will change and something different will happen because of it. I like that feeling.
(I mean I prefixed what I said by saying ‘if I’m honest’ but you’ve got to start somewhere? Right?)
October 25, 2009
3 responses to Honestly?
Sometimes it’s worth speaking up (as per your situation above), but I think you are more than intelligent enough to know when to stay quiet.
I know a couple of people (one of Mum & Dad’s friends springs to mind) and she considers that everything she thinks is good for public consumption too. So if it’s in her head, then whoever is present gets to hear it as well. As a result she sees one set of her grandchildren twice a year now if she is lucky, doesn’t speak to one of her daughters and her son moved 200 miles away as she upset his wife and her family. It is a sad situation.
It’s not about honesty, it’s about diplomacy and chances are if you are hesitating over whether to say something, then I’m guessing you’ve got good reason.
Here’s hoping your 2-hour a week spot improves :)
For me its ‘just about assertiveness….feeling OK about saying the things you need to say to be OK. Which isn’t the same as just saying anything that comes into your head whether it is to someone else’s detriment or not.
Yeah yeah, Rob I don’t think I meant cases of verbal diarrhea. I suppose I meant the things that Kate is referring to, saying the things you need to.
Or saying the things that are perhaps a little difficult sometimes.