Comments on: Honestly? http://chotoye.com/blog/2009/10/25/honestly/ This is it. Nothing happens next. Sun, 29 Jan 2012 20:47:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Omar http://chotoye.com/blog/2009/10/25/honestly/comment-page-1/#comment-91 Omar Sun, 25 Oct 2009 20:26:32 +0000 http://chotoye.com/blog/?p=152#comment-91 Yeah yeah, Rob I don't think I meant cases of verbal diarrhea. I suppose I meant the things that Kate is referring to, saying the things you need to. Or saying the things that are perhaps a little difficult sometimes. Yeah yeah, Rob I don’t think I meant cases of verbal diarrhea. I suppose I meant the things that Kate is referring to, saying the things you need to.

Or saying the things that are perhaps a little difficult sometimes.

]]> By: kate http://chotoye.com/blog/2009/10/25/honestly/comment-page-1/#comment-90 kate Sun, 25 Oct 2009 19:57:54 +0000 http://chotoye.com/blog/?p=152#comment-90 For me its 'just about assertiveness....feeling OK about saying the things you need to say to be OK. Which isn't the same as just saying anything that comes into your head whether it is to someone else's detriment or not. For me its ‘just about assertiveness….feeling OK about saying the things you need to say to be OK. Which isn’t the same as just saying anything that comes into your head whether it is to someone else’s detriment or not.

]]> By: rob http://chotoye.com/blog/2009/10/25/honestly/comment-page-1/#comment-89 rob Sun, 25 Oct 2009 19:07:38 +0000 http://chotoye.com/blog/?p=152#comment-89 Sometimes it's worth speaking up (as per your situation above), but I think you are more than intelligent enough to know when to stay quiet. I know a couple of people (one of Mum & Dad's friends springs to mind) and she considers that everything she thinks is good for public consumption too. So if it's in her head, then whoever is present gets to hear it as well. As a result she sees one set of her grandchildren twice a year now if she is lucky, doesn't speak to one of her daughters and her son moved 200 miles away as she upset his wife and her family. It is a sad situation. It's not about honesty, it's about diplomacy and chances are if you are hesitating over whether to say something, then I'm guessing you've got good reason. Here's hoping your 2-hour a week spot improves :) Sometimes it’s worth speaking up (as per your situation above), but I think you are more than intelligent enough to know when to stay quiet.

I know a couple of people (one of Mum & Dad’s friends springs to mind) and she considers that everything she thinks is good for public consumption too. So if it’s in her head, then whoever is present gets to hear it as well. As a result she sees one set of her grandchildren twice a year now if she is lucky, doesn’t speak to one of her daughters and her son moved 200 miles away as she upset his wife and her family. It is a sad situation.

It’s not about honesty, it’s about diplomacy and chances are if you are hesitating over whether to say something, then I’m guessing you’ve got good reason.

Here’s hoping your 2-hour a week spot improves :)

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